Mother’s Day can be a difficult time for those who are grieving the loss of their mother. Around this time it’s especially hard to escape the numerous bouquets gracing every corner that reminds us of the person who played such a central role in our lives. Sadly, the day that once was full of celebration and brought you closer to her can now feel hollow and bittersweet now that she’s gone. It’s traumatic to lose anyone, but losing your mother hits different. While there may be moments of solace in fond memories and cherished traditions, there is also an undeniable sense of longing for what once was. Navigating Mother’s Day while grieving requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to honor one’s unique journey through grief. But navigating that grief and coping with such a huge loss can also feel difficult.
Coping with grief during Mother’s Day can be challenging, but here are five strategies that may help:
1. Don’t Bury Your Feelings on Mother’s Day
Allow yourself to acknowledge and accept whatever emotions arise during Mother’s Day. Whether you feel sadness, anger, or even moments of joy in remembering your mother, know that it’s okay to experience a range of feelings. Give yourself permission to grieve in your way and at your own pace.
2. Create New Traditions
Don’t stop celebrating. You can still join in on the fun of Mother’s Day! Consider creating new traditions or rituals to honor your mother’s memory. This could involve visiting her favorite places, engaging in activities she enjoyed, or sharing stories and memories with loved ones. By incorporating elements that remind you of your mother into the day, you can find comfort in keeping her memory alive in meaningful ways. In the same breath, you don’t have to feel pressured to celebrate when you don’t want to. Each year, gauge your feelings and do what’s best for you.
3. Seek Support on Mother’s Day
Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family members, or a support group for emotional support during this time. Sharing your feelings with others who understand what you’re going through can provide comfort and validation. Whether it’s through a phone call, a virtual gathering, or an in-person visit, connecting with supportive individuals can help alleviate feelings of loneliness and isolation. Also, you can bond with others who have lost their mothers, as well.
4. Practice Self-Care
Prioritize self-care and compassion for yourself as you navigate Mother’s Day. Engage in activities that bring you comfort and relaxation, such as meditation, exercise, spending time in nature, or indulging in a favorite hobby. Additionally, you can also try journaling, visiting your mother’s grave, or speaking to her ashes if she was cremated. Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being is essential during moments of grief.
5. Honoring Boundaries
Respect your boundaries and communicate them to others. If certain Mother’s Day celebrations or activities feel too overwhelming or triggering, it’s okay to decline invitations or modify your plans. Give yourself permission to prioritize your own needs and well-being, even if it means stepping back from traditional Mother’s Day festivities or people that make you feel uncomfortable for choosing to celebrate in your unique way.
Remember that grief is a deeply personal experience, and there is no right or wrong way to cope with it. Be patient and gentle with yourself as you navigate the complexities of grief during Mother’s Day and beyond.
Here are some resources for coping with grief on Mother’s Day: