The LIGHTER Society is a collective of people who are leading, grieving, and growing through life’s heaviest seasons—and choosing to do it with intention and light. Our three membership communities offer distinct yet connected spaces for support, reflection, and renewal.
Become a SociaLIGHT
For changemakers, visionaries, and community leaders.
The SociaLIGHTS community is a vibrant collective of innovators, leaders, and creatives aged 21-45 from around the world who are dedicated to reimagining leadership through a healing and trauma-informed framework. This space is for shifting our thinking about trauma and loss in leadership roles, inspiration, support, collaboration, and collective impact.
Here, members:
- Support and confide in one another about leadership challenges related to trauma and loss.
- Connect with other forward-thinking changemakers.
- Share resources, tools, and strategies for trauma-informed and grief responsive leadership.
- Co-create solutions that bring light to the communities each innovator serves.
The LIGHTER Mourning Club
For those carrying the weight of profound personal loss.
The LIGHTER Mourning Club is a compassionate, informal, and global space for people aged 21-45 navigating the grief of losing both parents and/or siblings. This unique and tender journey often feels invisible in the larger conversation around loss—and we’ve built a home where it doesn’t have to be. This is a community of remembrance, resilience, and belonging.
Here, members:
- Connect with others who share similar losses and understand the depth of these experiences.
- Pause to take up space for their grief.
- Find solidarity in stories and reflections, while honoring what’s and who has been lost.
- Receive support in a space that acknowledges grief as ongoing—not “one and done.”
DeLIGHT & DECOMPRESS
For women caregivers and recovering people-pleasers.
The DeLight & Decompress Hour is an invitation to replenish your soul—a guided hour where women who give so much to others can finally rest, release, and receive. This space is designed to help women let go of the constant “doing” and reconnect with their inner light.
In each session, members are invited to:
- Step into a relatable circle of women who truly understand the weight of caregiving and people-pleasing.
- Engage in guided practices and activities that ease the mind, soften the body, and open space for joy and fun.
- Share in gentle conversations or simply listen—there’s no expectation to perform or overgive.
- Learn small, practical tools for setting boundaries, reclaiming energy, and prioritizing self-care.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What is The LIGHTER Society?
The LIGHTER Society is a collective of communities designed to support healing, leadership, and rest after trauma and loss. It’s a space for people who are ready to become lighter in their everyday lives through connection, reflection, and shared support.
2. Who are these communities for?
Our communities are open to anyone who identifies with their purpose or focus, regardless of whether they are located in the US or not. The LIGHTER Society upholds a zero-tolerance policy for discrimination, racism, or any form of harassment.
3. Do I need to join all three communities?
Certainly not. You’re welcome to join the community (or communities) that align with where you are in your healing or leadership journey. Some members find that all three spaces support them in different ways, while others focus on just one.
4. What can I expect as a member?
You’ll gain access to a supportive, private community space, guided discussions, and opportunities for reflection and connection. Each group has its own focus—whether that’s grief support, leadership development, or intentional rest—but they all share one thing in common: a commitment to helping members feel seen, heard, supported, and lighter.
5. Is The LIGHTER Society therapy or a support group?
No. While our communities are deeply supportive and trauma-informed, they are not therapy or mental health treatment.Instead, they offer spaces for connection, learning, and personal growth alongside others with similar experiences.
6. How much does membership cost?
Membership costs vary depending on the community. Details are shared on each sign-up page.
7. How do I join?
You can explore each community on our website and select the group that fits your needs. Once you complete your brief sign-up form, you’ll receive access details and upcoming session information.
8. Why are the SociaLIGHTS and The LIGHTER Mourning Club limited to ages 21–45?
Losing one or both parents before midlife is rarer than many realize—only about 26% of people have lost both parents, and among those in their 30s, roughly 23–25% have lost at least one. Younger adults under 45 often juggle careers, relationships, and other life milestones while carrying this loss, yet there are few spaces designed for them. Our founder experienced the death of both parents before 35 while building her career, highlighting the need for a space where grief and ambition, legacy and forward-building, can coexist. Age boundaries create peer connection, relatability, and safety, rather than widening generational gaps in support.
9. Do I have to share personal details or speak during meetings?
No. Participation is always your choice. You’re welcome to join sessions quietly, listen, and take in what feels right for you. There’s no expectation to perform or overshare—your presence is enough.
10. Are meetings held online or in person?
Currently, most gatherings take place online to make them accessible no matter where you are. Occasionally, we offer in-person meetups or retreats, which are announced in advance.
11. What does “LIGHTER” stand for?
LIGHTER stands for the Liberation of Innovators for Greater Healing, Transformation, Empathy, and Resilience.
It reflects our mission to create spaces where people can grow, lead, and live with more freedom, compassion, and authenticity—together after trauma and loss.
12. What does “innovator” mean in The LIGHTER Society?
In The LIGHTER Society, an innovator is anyone bold enough to dream and willing to use their light to help others ignite theirs. You don’t need to be a traditional leader to be an innovator—just someone who believes in growth, healing, and creating positive change through authenticity and empathy, out in the world sparking transformation.